Enhancing Family Coaching through Intentional Observation

In the realm of family coaching, the effectiveness of our strategies often hinges on the depth of our observation. Each interaction, each routine, holds invaluable insights that can inform our approach collaboration with families. In this blog post, we explore the art of intentional observation.

Setting the Intention:

• Before diving into the nuances of observation, it’s crucial to set the intention. This simple yet powerful step lays the groundwork for effective coaching strategies. Consider setting an intention to do one or more of these for successful observing during home visits:
  • Identify an incidental routine during each visit and quietly observe for 10 seconds.
  • Request caregivers to share videos or photos before sessions to provide additional context.
  • Verbally plan an observation during the session, stating your intention to quietly witness without interfering. 
  • Utilize an observation checklist, either independently or collaboratively with caregivers, to structure the process. Here's an observation checklist that I've created. 

Expanding Observation Horizons:

• Expanding the scope and depth of our observations can help identify what caregivers are already doing well and what strengths we can build from. Consider these strategies to enhance your observational repertoire:
  • Aim to observe multiple routines during each visit, increasing the depth of insights gained.
  • Follow your observations with feedback, reflection and problem-solving. According to the research (Friedman & Woods, 2012) these follow-up coaching strategies increases caregivers' capacity. 
  • Collaborate with caregivers by planning which routines to observe, fostering a sense of shared responsibility and empowerment.
  • Be a detective by spotting incidental routines and observing them for any possible strengths and learning opportunities (e.g. getting out of a high chair, opening a door, etc.). 

Navigating Challenges:

• While the benefits of intentional observation are clear, challenges may arise in its implementation, such as:
  • Communicating effectively with families about the purpose and process of observation. This is where an observation checklist can help. Some coaches have found it easier to have parents watch them first and note their observations. Then they take turns allowing parents to practice being observed next. 
  • Adapting observation strategies to suit individual family dynamics and cultural contexts. If direct observation proves challenging, consider alternative approaches such as requesting videos or photos. Additionally, identify incidental routines and swiftly highlight caregivers' strengths. As caregivers recognize the focus on positive aspects and supportive intentions, they may become more comfortable with broader observation. This gradual process builds trust and facilitates deeper insights into various aspects of their daily routines.

In the journey of EI coaching, intentional observation serves as a cornerstone for our growth and development. By setting clear intentions (talking to caregivers about the Camera part of our framework), expanding our observational horizons, and navigating challenges with finesse, we unlock new avenues for meaningful engagement and progress. As we reflect on our practice and strive for continuous improvement, let us embrace the transformative power of observation for enriching the lives of families we serve.